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Leading in the Grey

Making a sound decision when no option is perfect

Julie Goddard, creator of i3 Leadership · 5-minute read · First published 2025, revised 2026

IN BRIEF

Some decisions stay difficult however much we know, because every option costs something. This piece looks at how leaders can choose well between competing goods and risks, test their options against the standards they answer to, and account for the trade-offs they make.

Some decisions are difficult because we do not yet know enough. We can gather more information, speak to the right people, understand the risks better and move closer to an answer.

Others are difficult for a different reason. We understand the situation reasonably well, and there is still no obviously good option. There are good reasons to choose one course of action and equally good reasons not to. Every option carries a consequence, compromises something we value or creates a risk we would rather not take.

These are the decisions I find most interesting, because more information does not necessarily resolve them. Seeing a situation clearly helps; it shows us the options and what each one involves. It can also show us, with uncomfortable precision, how hard the choice between them is going to be.

When there is no right answer waiting to be found

The idea of a right answer runs deep in organisational life. We analyse problems, gather evidence, assess risk and look for best practice. All of this is useful, but it can create an expectation that enough analysis will eventually reveal the correct course of action.

Sometimes it does. Sometimes the problem is that several things matter and we cannot protect all of them at once.

A service needs to reduce costs without compromising quality. An organisation needs to respond fairly to one individual while considering the consequences for everyone else. A leader wants to give someone another chance while recognising the effect their performance is having on the team. A change needs to happen, but every route towards it will disrupt something that is currently working.

Choices like these involve competing goods, competing risks and sometimes competing responsibilities, and that changes the question. Asking which option is right assumes that one of them is. A more useful question may be: what matters most here, and what am I prepared to accept in order to protect it?

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Consequences do not distribute themselves according to the quality of our intentions.

The search for certainty

There is nothing unreasonable about wanting to be sure before making a consequential decision. The difficulty comes when certainty is not available and we carry on behaving as though it ought to be.

Another report is commissioned. Another conversation takes place. More data is requested. The decision returns to next month’s agenda. Any one of those steps might be entirely appropriate. What matters is recognising the point at which gathering information has stopped improving our understanding and started postponing the moment of choice.

I explored some of this in The Speed Trap. Delay can look thoughtful, and sometimes it is. Sometimes it reflects a hope that if we wait long enough, events will remove the need to make an uncomfortable decision. That hope is understandable, and occasionally it is rewarded, but in many of the decisions I am describing, the uncertainty that remains is not a gap waiting to be filled. It belongs to the decision itself.

What are we prepared to trade?

One of the harder things to accept in senior leadership is that a sound decision can still have a bad consequence. Someone can be disappointed by a fair decision. A necessary change can damage something that matters. Protecting one priority can mean accepting greater risk elsewhere. A decision can be the best one available and still leave the leader wishing there had been another option. None of that necessarily means the judgement was poor; consequences do not distribute themselves according to the quality of our intentions.

If we expect a good decision to produce an entirely good outcome, some decisions become almost impossible to take. We keep looking for an option without cost, when the more demanding task is deciding which costs we can justify.

The word trade-off can sound clinical when what is being traded is people’s jobs, the quality of a service, financial sustainability, safety, trust or an individual’s future. That is precisely why these decisions deserve more than a framework that produces a score and ranks the options. Judgement involves weighing things that cannot always be measured on the same scale.

It also involves testing the options against what the decision has to answer to. Standards, regulation, legal duties and the commitments an organisation has made to the people it serves are more than further factors in the balance. Some of them rule options out altogether, and checking a preferred option against them before committing to it is one of the more practical disciplines a leader can build.

Values play a different role, and a less tidy one. Every organisation has things it says matter, and difficult decisions are often where we discover how much they matter, because keeping them has started to cost something. Values do not automatically supply the answer. Two things we care about can pull in different directions, and responsibilities can conflict. Even so, knowing what we are not willing to trade away can change a decision considerably.

Confidence and judgement

When I first wrote this article, I was interested in the relationship between uncertainty and confidence, and I suggested that leaders needed to become more confident about moving forward despite ambiguity. I would put it differently now.

Confidence is not what I would optimise for. A leader can be extremely confident and wrong. Another can have serious doubts and still exercise excellent judgement. In a hard decision, some doubt may be entirely appropriate.

What matters more to me is whether a leader can explain the reasoning behind the choice. What did they understand the problem to be? Which options did they consider? Which consequences did they take seriously? What were they trying to protect, and what did they knowingly put at risk? Answering those questions makes the judgement visible, to the leader as much as to anyone else, even though it cannot make the decision safe.

Owning the choice

Difficult decisions bring a temptation to stand behind the process. The data told us. The framework produced this result. The policy required it. The board wanted it. There was no alternative.

Sometimes those statements are true as far as they go. Policies create constraints, boards have authority and financial realities cannot be wished away. Even so, I am wary of the phrase ‘we had no choice’. Usually there was one. We may have disliked every option, one may have been overwhelmingly preferable, and the consequences of rejecting it may have been unacceptable. Describing a difficult choice as no choice at all can quietly remove the leader from their own decision.

TAKING THIS FURTHER

Questions you can take into the room

 Questions to use on your own, in supervision or with your team when a decision is under pressure.

MORE IN THE SERIES
01
Pressure Changes What Leaders See

Capable leaders rarely make poor decisions because they have stopped thinking. More often, pressure gradually changes what they can see, while the decision still feels entirely reasonable.

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02
The Speed Trap

Urgency can feel like information about a situation when it often says more about the pressure surrounding it. On the difference between making a decision and making a move.

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Exploring these questions with your leaders?

i3 Leadership works with leaders and leadership teams in care, health, education and financial services, where decisions made under pressure carry consequences for other people.

The thinking behind these articles is set out on The i3 Approach.